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Monday, September 29, 2014

Stop Starting Over

Have you been starting your diet over and over again? Do you feel like one week you are so on top of things then the next week, you can't seem to wrap your mind around going to the gym or eating all the vegetables you bought at the grocery store?

You are not alone! It's normal to feel this way.  Change is hard and it's especially hard when it makes you feel uncomfortable and hurts. Even though we know it is a good change for us, it's hard to change our desire to make it permanent.  I struggled with creating a habit for about 4 months.  I started losing weight in February of 2013 and it wasn't until June when I felt like this was something I would keep doing for the rest of my life.  What made me really want this was we went on a trip to Disneyland and being off of my routine made me miss it.  I just knew that I loved the new way of life I had created for myself.

This question is quite popular for those looking to lose weight.  They have tried so many times that it just feels like a joke. I know exactly how you feel.  You go to the grocery store and buy over $100 worth of food.  You feel so great and you just know that you are going to lose some weight once and for all.  Then you plan out your schedule for the week, making sure you have workouts planned, alarms set and maybe you even bought new workout clothes.  You have spent so much time and money on changing your life.  You do great for the first few days even weeks! Then, real life hits.  You start to feel temptation.  You get tired.  Your schedule doesn't allow you to workout one day.  You cave to a craving and right then and there you decide what's the point.  You give up and just feel worse than when you started.

I have found this to be a very common spiral of despair for a lot of us.  Like I mentioned in my post about my number one piece of advice is we don't set out for progress, but what we are looking for is perfection.  When we bought all those groceries and set all those 5 am workout alarms, we didn't think about the what if's.  What if I skip my workout, how will I react to that?  What if I go to the birthday party and eat cake?  When we mentally plan ahead and accept that we will probably 'fail', then knowing that we can get back up is so much easier.  Erase the all or nothing mentality! When you make healthy a lifestyle and not a diet, you won't beat yourself up over an unplanned cheat meal or skipping the gym.  And when the scale stays the same number even after you have worked really hard, don't think that you need to give up.  Realize that you just need to accept that you won't always succeed, but that this is just part of the journey.  Of course we all love to see progress especially constant weekly progress.  For a lot of us, that is what keeps us going, but understand that even when you don't see it, thats normal! Don't give up.

If you are at a point in your life where you have started a diet, quit and have done this over and over again.  There is hope! You can keep going.  Understand that this is life, there is no race! When you feel like giving up, take a step back and realize where your frustration is coming from.  Is it because this is too hard?  Lower your expectations of yourself.  We need to make your goals challenging, but not impossible.  If you are trying to convince yourself that you are just going to be happier overweight, realize that your ultimate goal of whatever weight or size or body that you want is attainable.  It's completely possible.  You are the only one that can get you there, but it won't happen over night.  It's supposed to take time.  Thankfully it does because the habits I have learned are going to be really hard for me to break!

You are doing great! You have so much to be proud of and work towards a better you every day!


  1. Thank you for your inspiration! I've started and stopped so many times and have felt so frustrated with myself! I'm a mother of three young girls and I work a full time and a part time job. My challenge is finding the time to work out as well as the time to meal prep. I'm already waking up at 5 every morning just to get ready to head out the door for work and my nights are filled with homework and extra activities for my kids. Where do you find the time?Finding balance can be hard. I'm so disappointed with myself for being the size I am and for not setting a good example for my daughters but I feel like I need at least 3 more hours in my day to do anything about it.

    1. You do have a busy schedule! Where I would tell you to workout, you are already up and trying to get a move on your day. Then at night you're super busy as it is! I would say try and workout, 2-3x a week. Not every day.

  2. Thank you so much for this post! I truly feel exactly like you said and I get so upset and frustrated when I feel like I keep failing. Your motivation is inspiring and I know I can make a change, I just have to set my mind to it and do it!

  3. I really appreciate this post. Came at the right time. It's difficult to swallow when you're older and your health has been seriously compromised by your own neglect and by giving up so many times. I'm now a diabetic with complications even though my glucose levels are under control with medication. When you reach my age you want to make the weightloss process a fast one and not seing results is extremely frustrating/depressing. I keep trying... I keep pushing.


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